“I’m not the average girl from your video, and I ain’t built like a super model, but I learned to love myself unconditionally, because I am a queen.” ~India Arie~
Everything about me screams lady. I’m feminine. I’m beautiful. I have a smile to die for. But, I’m not into heels. I’m not into makeup. I wear my hair natural…I like to dress comfortable. This isn’t to say that I don’t carry myself like a lady, but I’m a far cry from your average fashionista. I had to define ladylike for myself, without the influence of the media and my peers.
“Figuring out my own agenda was vital so that I could know that I was in an alignment with my truth.”
At this moment in time, my definition of fashion is wearing what I love and feeling comfortable in what I have on.
When starting this platform, I explored the Internet for inspiration. I noticed a common trend…beautiful women who were dressed to impress; all deserving to be on the front covers of a magazine. I’ve never been the type of person to follow trends, especially when it came to clothing, but I found myself wondering if this was the only way to grow a loyal fan base. That thought quickly evaporated.
Fitting in has never been my thing. In high school I was a tomboy. I wasn’t apart of the popular girls who wore the long hair, heels, makeup, and the latest fashion from Forever 21. It was cute, don’t get me wrong, it just wasn’t for me. I imagined myself being the 4th person in the group, TLC. Back in the day, that’s exactly how I dressed. That wasn’t too appealing to the boys, or girls in high school. It didn’t earn me the right to be considered popular. Oh well.
Fast forward…so I’m realizing that all I can do is be myself. The type of clothing that I wear is a reflection of myself. Young, hip, and too cool for school. (haha). But seriously, I won’t be your average fashion queen, I wont always wear things that necessarily go together, you’ll hardly ever see me in makeup, and you may never see me wearing heels. What I can guarantee is authenticity.
“If I have it on, it’s because I love what I’m wearing. It won’t be inspired by the latest trend, unless it’s the latest trend inside my head.”
Ladies, have you ever been put in a situation where you felt like you had to look or dress a certain way in order to maintain a certain persona? For the ladies who have their own look, and refuse to have their wardrobe dictated by what’s hot in the media, I’d love to hear from you as well. When did you realize that you were different and embraced your truth?
What many people may not realize is that these feelings and thoughts can last well into adulthood. Peer pressure and social comparison doesn’t end in high school. For the ladies who are possibly having a hard time figuring out your own sense of style and look, just know that you’re beautiful just the way you are. Be true to yourself and the rest will fall into place.
Live happy and inspired!