Drop It. Leave It. Let It Go: Keep Moving Forward Knowing That Your Best Days Are Up Ahead

One day I was told by an ex supervisor that I was a follower. When I asked her to elaborate, she told me that she felt I didn’t voice my opinion when it came to making certain decisions on my team. My response, to her criticism was, “Just because I pick and choose my battles, doesn’t mean that I am a follower with no voice.” That was the end of that brief meeting. Needless to say, her comment made me upset. During this time, I worked at a nonprofit. I was placed on a team of 4 consisting of 2 women and 2 men. Unfortunately, the other woman was always in competition with me and always needed to feel as though she was the Head B*&!@ In Charge. I allowed her the 15 minutes of fame she so desperately needed to validate her existence. I couldn’t stand one more day of disagreement and tension. I knew I had two options, continue to go at each other’s throat, or refuse to allow my coworker to steal my happiness. I went with the latter. My supervisor viewed this as a sign of weakness and made it a point to let me know. I didn’t allow myself to remain upset at my supervisor, and I refused to waste another minute being bitter. In that moment, I dropped the issue, left it in its tracks, and let it go. A few weeks later, I quit, and regained my happiness. Continue reading Drop It. Leave It. Let It Go: Keep Moving Forward Knowing That Your Best Days Are Up Ahead

Self Care: You Are a Priority Not an Option

Self care, I believe it to be one of the most selfish selfless acts one can do, particularly those of us living in our 30s.  No, that statement was not a typo, it is more like an oxymoron.  Simply put, it is all about you taking care of you and making sure your mind, body and spirit are well. Some would say that is an act of selfishness when in essence it really expresses the statement: “make sure your house in order before inviting others to come over.” Western society has us trained to believe that we must always help our fellow man, lend our neighbor a hand at all cost…even at our expense. Continue reading Self Care: You Are a Priority Not an Option